What is: when you meet a guy to whom you are insanely attracted, only to have him not be available?
Yeah. Again. Or perhaps its “still”. It seems to be so typical of my life that often I forget.
I may have blogged about this guy before. I may not have. On paper (or electronically, anyway) he’s just about perfect. Around my age. Smart. Gainfully employed. Ridiculously handsome. Intoxicatingly sexy. Finds me attractive. Great kisser.
Oh, and might I say “ridiculously handsome” again? Seriously. The hair. The eyes. Pick a feature! When he’s near I just can’t not stare at him.
Or touch him.
There’s just one, teensy-weensy hiccup… He has a boyfriend.
Well sort of a boyfriend. Not a partner. Not a husband. More of a fuckbuddy that has grown into more, but they don’t live together and don’t fuck anymore so the relationship is falling apart and they’re mostly just friends, but still…
Now I understand the “it’s complicated” selection on Facebook.
Regardless, he is “emotionally unavailable”. From our post-coital chats, he has made it clear that he doesn’t feel he’s cut out to be “in a relationship”. Well duh! You have a bf and just had your dick in me, so….
Yeah. Unavailable. And even if he were to completely break up with the other guy, I doubt he’d want to change his ways and get involved with me.
Which just really sucks all the way around, damnit.
Mangina Monologues 
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I don’t know, cb. Maybe you should give him a chance. He might surprise you. Be your sexy, lovable self, and he will be interested in you. Be open to having some kind of relationship with him – it may evolve into something really beautiful.
I say… just let it be what it is. Enjoy the moments he is with you (and in you). Don’t try to define it too quickly. Just relax. And brag to your friends that a totally hot guy bangs you on occasion! 🙂
Why do you think you are drawn to ‘unavailable’ men?
You’re not exactly chop liver CB. You let the guy slime you and now you want more. Don’t sell yourself short.