And my date was…


Is what I may have been saying today had he not sent me a message on Saturday to cancel on me. 

Yup, another last minute cancellation. 

And this one also had to suddenly go out of town for work which necessitated flying out in Sunday. Hence the cancellation of our dinner date. 

Naturally he was apologetic and wants to reschedule when he gets back into town. And maybe this one is a legitimate excuse, but after being rejected by other guys using the exact same excuse has made me pretty much give up on this one. 

Plus, I think there were some other red flags:

He never gave me his cell number, and he never called or texted after I had given him mine. I even asked if we could chat by phone… and nothing. 

He also was inconsistent in his communication as “his best friend had just been in a bad car accident and he was dealing with that.”

These are red flags, right?

Why do I always attract the damaged ones?  

P.S. it was Wichita.  That’s where he was flying for work. And today is MLK day.  Who does that?

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Dates and Whatnot

So… I may have a date on Sunday. A DINNER date even!  The only reason I say “may” is that I will forever be skeptical until it really happens, although this guy seems on the up and up. 

Unlike the last one. 

About that:

I don’t know if you all recall, but a guy asked me out on a date a few months back– in like November I think. He seemed fairly interested and we set up a time to meet for drinks. Which he cancelled at the last minute as he was called out of town on a work emergency. 

Ok, so that’s … excusable I suppose. He continued to express interest and even promised me dinner when he got back.  And then he basically ghosted my ass. 

I reached out a few more times, joking about how he was going to owe me a really good dinner now– with no response. 

At this point I’m assuming that he died in a fiery crash or is laying in a military hospital with amnesia or something. I mean, why else would he dis me so hard?


So back to this new guy. I’m hopeful but naturally a bit trepidatious, even more so as this is another OK Cupid date. 

(Remember I’ve had two other OK Cupid dates: one was a nice guy, no chemistry and the other was that Russian racist kid that led to the most uncomfortable date I’ve ever been on.)

I’m trying to put myself out there more and open myself to the idea of going on dates. Not just “dates” (where the quotes mean an hour long date in my bedroom). Which is where OK Cupid comes in, as it is free and not as much a hookup app as Scruff, Grindr, Growlr, Jack’d……


On paper (aka digital social dating media self description) this guy seems very promising. He lives in a suburb, is well educated and travelled, he’s musical and artsy and seems to have a good deal going on upstairs. Plus, his pictures show that his look is ever-changing and fun. 

So we’ll see. 

Right now I’ve been tasked with choosing the restaurant for dinner… and I’m stressing. I need a place that isn’t fancy, but isn’t fast food, isn’t too expensive yet not too pedestrian,  is quiet and private enough to allow for a decent conversation and that serves drinks.


And my gosh– whatever am I going to WEAR?!?

*starts hyperventilating*

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Woofy Wednesday

Happy humpin’!

And a little extra snack:

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Tyler’s Suite

Gay chorus is starting back up, and on the docket for this spring is a piece called “Tyler’s Suite”.  It’s an 8 or 9 movement Suite (each by a different composer) that celebrates the life of Tyler Clementi.

Tyler, as you may recall, was the college student who was bullied and outed by his roommate- eventually leading to his suicide. 

A real upper of a piece. 

While it will be sad and heartfelt, it will also offer some good music to sing. I’ve already listened to the suite and I quite like it all. One of my favorite movements is called: the Unicycle Song.

Evidently Tyler could ride a unicycle and play the violin. Simultaneously. And this interesting fragment of Tyler’s life is one of the movements. 

It has a jaunty violin solo and whimsical chorus. It’s the most lighthearted of the movements– invoking the charm and craziness of this skill set in Tyler’s life. 

But the piece goes beyond that. 

While the movement is not very difficult harmonically or melodically, it somehow manages to capture the joy of this part of Tyler’s short life. And then the lyrics (again not complex) add so many layers to the song. 

In a few short lines, the song suddenly transforms from storytelling into an allegory for life in general. Like when it speaks to the disaster of wiping out “so I pedal even faster like I never had a doubt.”

And then the lyrics speak to spirituality. 

“There’s a thread that they can’t see– running through the fiddle, wheel and me. Rising up above the trees… above the clouds, to heaven… from me.”

The first time I heard this song, I just burst out crying. It speaks to this quirky boy with unusual talents trying to keep it all balanced and upright while pedaling like mad through life.

And now he’s gone. 

And I, for one, think there should be more unicycling violinists in the world, and we are all the poorer from the loss. 

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I don’t normally like “reimaginings” but….

I loved the first installment of “Emerald City”!

Critics are calling it a new “game of thrones”.  It might be– I’ve never watched a single minute of G.O.T. All I know is that I was drawn in and fascinated throughout. 

Mostly I enjoyed it because the show because it only took the barest of framework from the original story, and then created a new, darker, grittier world.  In many ways darker than Wicked’s take (novel, not musical).

I found little things to be quite clever– like when Dorothy stumbled across the outer lands “tribe” of people and they were drumming and dancing in mourning to the death of the East Witch.  But they were dancing and drumming in a spiral

And these were not munchkins:

Another nod to the original is the “scarecrow”.  He is actually a wizard guard soldier (with amnesia) who was covered in straw and on a crucifix.

It doesn’t hurt matters that he is HAWT!  And slightly mentally unbalanced. 

I also enjoy the multicultural cast. Dorothy is Hispanic, one of the witches is black (although she died early), there are Asian women as part of Oz’s tech elite, etc. 

And the black witch was FABULOUS!  I hope she isn’t fully dead.

In this Oz, the wizard is a tech guy who is at war with witchcraft and magic. He’s basically banished the witches to their respective cardinal directions and the citizens have been taught to fear them. 

Oh, and the West Witch (in black) is a drunk/opium addict who runs a house of prostitution. Just sayin’.

The sets and costumes are fantastic, the world is imaginative and dark. And they are introducing cool characters who are flawed and real. And a touch savage. 

Overall it’s a cool blend of steampunk tech, medieval feudal society, magic, and political intrigue. 

I’m seriously hoping this story arc is sustainable.

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Woofy Wednesday

It’s the start of the audit, so I need this distraction:

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Let the fun begin!

Now comes the time for my annual bitch-post about starting back to work after the holidays and how we (at work) have no freebie vacation until the end of May. 

That’s a mighty long haul with no break. 

And it sucks. 

To add to my fun, my new year always starts with a bang at work as our annual, massive. quality system audit takes place this week. So starting tomorrow, I will be the auditor baby sitter.

For three days. 

While I’m not anticipating a catastrophe, audits are never good because the auditors are paid to find shit.

So even though it’s a short week, I’m going to be stabby. 

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Happy (?) 2017

Well, we made it. A new year– rebirth.  A fresh start.  Blah blah yadda yadda. 

I never celebrate New Years– at least not in the traditional sense. It’s basically “amateur night” for drinkers so yeah. I avoid that. Instead, I use New Year’s Eve to tidy up loose ends and to refocus myself. 

So I stayed in, reflected in 2016, and prepared myself for 2017. Some of the shit I did yesterday:

As is tradition with me, I spent New Year’s Eve day doing the following:

– all my pending laundry

– cleaning out fridge of old containers and washing shelves

– vacuuming, dusting, and generally cleaning condo (Including sinks, toilets, baseboards, taking out recycling, etc)

– purging unsalvagable clothes, shoes, and randomly saved crap

– reorganizing my bedroom closet (I’ll never be happy with it until I get a California closet)

– fixing  my toilet flapper

– conditioning the  leather on my couch/bed

– cutting my hair

– shaving and trimming beard

– working out

– running errands (got a new lamp shade, ink for my printer, cat fud, dinner)

– eliminating the redundant dimmers and extension cords for lamps now that I have Hue bulbs.

– creating and printing my resolutions

– playing some music (Satie and Debussy)

– finishing the Gilmore Girls year in the life thing on Netflix
As far as 2016 goes, I had a decent year overall.  Work was kind of poopy, but manageable and I’m still employed and in good financial shape. My parents had health things, but are generally ok. I went to Denver and had a transformative gay chorus experience.  My weight isn’t where I want it to be, but I’m generally healthy. I’m musically active.

I have crap to work on in 2017, and I’m expecting some challenges. But all in all I say, “Bring it on.”

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Thirsty Thursday

Because of the holidays, I’ve been a bit discombobulated with days and dates. So today I’ll post my homage to the tres beaux homes:

And a few much less safe for work options:



Yes– Colby still makes me thirsty. 

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Alexa? Write My Blog….

So, my mom came through and got me an Amazon Echo for christmas!  Well– she ordered one for me.  It won’t ship until like January 3rd. 

But I’m already preparing my home for the 21st century. 

I installed a Lutron dimmer switch for my dining room chandelier. Once I have Alexa in place, I’ll be able to control the lighting (with dimming).  It also works well as just a modern wall switch. 

I also got a Hue bulb starter kit (3 color/white LED bulbs and a bridge). I’ve set them up in the 3 lamps that I have, and already have them linked to my iPhone. 

It’s already pretty awesome, but with Alexa it will be awesomer!

I can change colors, moods, brightness, etc all from my phone. And I can even make changes through Siri!

Last night was all “Siri, turn down bedroom lamp”, and Siri is all like “Okay, I’ve turned down your bedroom lamp to 68%”.

I also played around with mood lighting in the bedroom. A dim red looks cool!

Andnive even set up routines– like turning on my living room at 5pm and off at 10:10.  And having my bedroom light turn on at 7:05 while I’m in the shower.

Alexa will also with my Nest thermostat.

I am looking forward to exploring home automation. Possibly even doing my door lock with Sesame if I can figure out how to mount it appropriately with my door configuration. 


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