I like making New Years resolutions. I do them every year and post them on the fridge as a reminder. I learned long ago that if you don’t write them down (and make them measurable) then they don’t happen.
So I have some additional resolutions that I made– but these don’t go on the fridge.
For one, I resolve to be less slutty in 2018.
(Yes this is measurable, but again not for posting here).
At the end of 2017 I was taking stock of my year and realized that I had a lot of sex. A LOT. And most of it wasn’t very fulfilling.
Too many flakes. Too much time wasted looking for sex. Too much Alex just for the sake of having sex. Too much “meh”. Too much meth*! Too little connection. And too much self esteem degradation.
* (meaning men who use meth or are in recovery here)
I didn’t like this assessment.
So I think I need to change this behavior in 2018.
(Along with this goes being less sexual– which will be hard. Pun not intended, but see??)
Also, I will be striving to not engage obstinate people on social media. The goal here is zero instances.
It just isn’t worth it. No hearts and minds change and it just leads to frustration and high blood pressure.
So fuck ’em. I’ll just ignore or unfollow. And continue to post my random weird apolitical shit.
I’m also going to try to be more social– to make events happen (like game nights and dinner parties) and to strive to say “yes” when invited to places or events.
Finally, I want to work on being nicer. This is definitely not a good measurable goal and a bit nebulous. But I can smile more. Hug more. Ask more questions of people to get to know them better. Listen more than talk. Learn peoples names.
We’ll see how all this goes, but now that it’s in writing, it’s more official.
Me, I’m known for being the cool as a cucumber type even in stressful times. I recall one instance when I worked for a state agency – the admin director was a clueless bitch. She comes out raving at me and in my calm voice said “Did you add him to the HR database?” She stomped away red-faced.
I like your resolutions! Especially the ones about being more social, saying yes to invitations, and being nicer/kinder. Good job!!
I had a slutty 2017 too but I don’t write about those adventures. Looking back, I was alarmed by the number of men who offered me meth. I declined all offers. I did a lot of drugs before I found out I was HIV+. I don’t need to relive that life. Good luck with your resolutions.
Less slutty does not necessarily mean less sex.
I like your resolutions too, except that I am obstinate and will likely get blocked in 2018.