Do you ever run across people in your life that just seem to attract Drama all the time? I’m talking capital D drama. There’s always some issue or their world is crashing down, etc. You know the kind.
Well the “new gay” at work is one such drama magnet. For the sake of this blog we’ll call him… Blake.
First off, I don’t know if I ever blogged that yes, Blake is for sure gay. When he was first hired I wasn’t sure but I was hopeful. I didn’t want to be the only gay at work. So it was cool when we discovered that we each had a propensity for cock.
But then I rapidly started coming across “red flags”.
It started when we met at the Eagle for a “get to know the other gay at work” drink.
The first red flag was that Blake couldn’t drink “for another hour”. Because he had to submit a clean breathalyzer result to his parole officer before drinking.
Because that was part of the probation for his DUI.
And yet here he is, meeting me at a bar. And he has his “when to drink” timing planned out.
And then Blake shared that he’s been in “treatment” before. I think it was for meth, but he didn’t say. It was alluded to thst it wasn’t for alcohol tho.
Which is where he met a 23yo that he’s in love with- although this kid is still currently in treatment. For meth.
Oh, and did I mention that Blake has a husband? That he cheats on but they don’t talk about that because he’s pretty sure his husband also cheats on all his business trips so it’s ok.
And then there was the time that Blake texted me to see if maybe he could crash at my place because his husband had kicked him out after yet another fight. This one because Blake went home with a bartender after they fought at the bar.
And now they’re talking divorce. Maybe.
(PS— I told him he should either go home or get a hotel).
And a lot of the issues also revolve around money— because Blake has the tendency to spend it like water.
The coup de grace for me was last night when he texted me that he might not have a job anymore because he was sick of all the straight salespeople always talking about their wives and boobs and pussy and such. And he couldn’t work in this “all male hetero” environment and he emailed all this to his boss and the HR manager.
Okay. I get it. Nobody should have to put up with a harassing work environment. But I’m not really sure how “harassing” it was. But he did interview and we have an unapologetically all white, straight male management and sales environment.
Which sucks but….
I can’t help but think he could have approached things differently, either by talking to his boss or to HR directly. But no.
He chose the dramatic route.
This is all so frustrating. I really wanted another gay at work, but this one isn’t working out. And even if he does stay, I plan on distancing myself from him.
Drama and I are like gasoline and a match: meaning I want to douse you with the gasoline and light you on fire.
Because Jesus. Just make good goddamn choices.