Welp, I think I may have chased off another potential date. Maybe it could have been a date. Honestly I don’t know, but it kinda would have been nice to find out.
So he was a guy that I had seen both in scruff and At my gym. At my gym first– then accidentally on scruff. And not slutty on scruff either. And when I say “at my gym” I mean actually working out, not lurking in the steam room.
He’s a bit shorter than I am, and blonde. But bearded and sort of an otter. And he has these super bright blue eyes and…
The problem is that he is always at the gym with another guy. Who is brunette but built just the same and they seem attached at the hip. I assumed they were a couple. And how do you just go up and talk to a couple??
You don’t. At least not when you kind of like one of them.
But I did see the blonde one on scruff– so I said hi on there.
And he responded!!
We chatted about bahn mi and Heidegger. And I asked him what kind of art he does (spoiler- it’s photography). So not only is he cute but he’s smart and educated and …
He started smiling and waving at me at the gym. While he walked everywhere with his boyfriend. Grrrr.
So the next time I saw him on scruff I said I would walk up and introduce myself to them. He said, “Deal!”
Which was the very next day.
They were right behind me on the ellipticals and when I glanced back he smiled and waved. I smiled back.
And when I was finished I introduced myself. As promised. And shook their hands. And chatted a bit, but only briefly, as they were still working out.
Then later (on scruff) I discovered that they are NOT a couple, but just friends. And I was told that I wasn’t the first person to make this mistake.
And I may or may not have done a little happy dance.
And then he disappeared.
Well, he didn’t ghost or anything. He just stopped responding to me on scruff. And I haven’t seen him in a couple days at the gym. So maybe he’s on vacation with no wifi so that’s why he hasn’t responded. Right?
Or he’s not that interested (per usual) and I’m on the receiving end of the Minnesota passive-aggressive “respond by avoidance” thing.
Meh. I hate boys.