A week ago I wrote about meeting a guy that I thought had potential. We had a nice time together and he made me laugh. I found him handsome, fun, funny, witty, and above all “interesting”. Definitely worth a second look. I thought, “Well, even if this doesn’t go into romance, he could still be a cool guy to hang out with and actually double the number of friends I have in Minneapolis.”
Well, it’s now quite clear the feeling wasn’t mutual.
It started off well enough, with some back and forth texting. But that lasted only about a day. Then he just… stopped.
No biggie, I thought. We’re both busy, and I had to go out of town for business. So I let it rest, and then on Friday just sent him a quick text to say I was back in town and basically saying I hope he had a good week.
Then, of course, today I see him online. So I did the girl-thing and sent him a message: “Hey man, I’d love to hang out sometime. But if you aren’t interested that’s cool. Let me know.”
He logged off about 5 minutes later. No response. Nothing. I’m surprised he hasn’t blocked me, as he now seems the type.
What the fuck IS it with gay men? Cripes! I didn’t stalk him and leave countless voicemail messages or send a text that I love him and want to have his gaybies. And I certainly didn’t want to marry the fucker– I just thought pizza and a movie would be nice. Something that he seemed receptive to when we parted.
If’ a guy’s interested in you, he’ll let you know. I was interested and let him know. If he wasn’t interested, a courtesy “I don’t think I’m interested” text would’ve been most welcome. And a real time-saver. But just ignoring me or pretending that I don’t exist after having a decent time together?
And frankly disappointing.
Naturally I’m now wondering if he was as nice a guy as I originally thought. Either he’s exceptionally gifted at deception, or he’s emotionally damaged. Or perhaps he’s just one of those handsome guys who treats people like a jerk because he can.
Regardless, I get it. He’s just not that into me.