He’s Just Not That Into You… Again

A week ago I wrote about meeting a guy that I thought had potential.  We had a nice time together and he made me laugh.  I found him handsome, fun, funny, witty, and above all “interesting”.  Definitely worth a second look.  I thought, “Well, even if this doesn’t go into romance, he could still be a cool guy to hang out with and actually double the number of friends I have in Minneapolis.”

Well, it’s now quite clear the feeling wasn’t mutual.

It started off well enough, with some back and forth texting.  But that lasted only about a day.  Then he just… stopped.

No biggie, I thought.  We’re both busy, and I had to go out of town for business.  So I let it rest, and then on Friday just sent him a quick text to say I was back in town and basically saying I hope he had a good week.


Then, of course, today I see him online.  So I did the girl-thing and sent him a message:  “Hey man, I’d love to hang out sometime.  But if you aren’t interested that’s cool.  Let me know.”

He logged off about 5 minutes later.  No response.  Nothing.  I’m surprised he hasn’t blocked me, as he now seems the type.

What the fuck IS it with gay men?  Cripes!  I didn’t stalk him and leave countless voicemail messages or send a text that I love him and want to have his gaybies.  And I certainly didn’t want to marry the fucker– I just thought pizza and a movie would be nice.  Something that he seemed receptive to when we parted.

If’ a guy’s interested in you, he’ll let you know.  I was interested and let him know.  If he wasn’t interested, a courtesy “I don’t think I’m interested” text would’ve been most welcome.  And a real time-saver.  But just ignoring me or pretending that I don’t exist after having a decent time together?

Chickenshit behavior.

And frankly disappointing.

Naturally I’m now wondering if he was as nice a guy as I originally thought.  Either he’s exceptionally gifted at deception, or he’s emotionally damaged.  Or perhaps he’s just one of those handsome guys who treats people like a jerk because he can.

Regardless, I get it.  He’s just not that into me.


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Nickname: Munt Measurements: 45 B, 34, 38(?) Ambition: to be the best human ever! Turn ons: long walks on the beach, romantic dinners, porn, rainbows, cock Turn offs: bad smell face, men who are full of themselves, dead puppies, popcorn, sadness
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13 Responses to He’s Just Not That Into You… Again

  1. 😦
    people are such discourteous self-important little shits, aren’t they?

  2. Robert says:


    I’m sorry to hear things didn’t work out with him. Hugs from Iowa.

  3. bearhunterfl says:

    first of all, I agee with you completely. if people would just be honest online instead of unresponsive, it would save us all a lot of time. I’ve been exactly where you are, wishing somebody would just say “thanks, but I’m not interested”.
    I think the challenge of it all is that somepeople aren’t good at taking “No” for an answer. I’ve had circumstances where I’ve tried to do the proper thing and be honest, only to have the person on the other end become hostile, persistent, or needy. I think most of us have been there also, and those experiences sometimes make one reluctant to be honest.
    And the final thought, there are simply a lot of Dicks out there…..
    In the case you describe, if somebody has been chatting with you and suddenly stops, they sound like a Dick in my opinion… and sometimes Dicks are good at seeming different at first…..

  4. Raybob says:

    It’s nice to know of another’s douchebaggery up front rather than having it emerge from its stealth hiding place later.

  5. truthspew says:

    You nailed it – typical chickenshit behavior.

  6. rjjs8878 says:

    The prick should have replied. You gave him the option to say no yet he says nothing. Time to move on.

  7. W161 says:

    how many texts did you send that he did not respond to? If it is more than 3 it could scare someone off.

  8. Kevin M. says:

    Common courtesy seems to be lost in today’s digital world. You realized what it was all about and saved yourself from investing any more time and effort. I see nothing wrong with someone saying they want to hang out. If they’re interesting I’d give it a go, if not then I’d at least have the balls to say thanks but no thanks. There’s plenty of awesome guys out there, you’ll eventually weed through the muck and find the right one.

  9. Calvin says:

    I have to agree with everyone else, the stupid ass could at least have said “thanks, but no thanks”.

  10. Mark in DE says:

    As everyone else said, some people prefer the ‘easy’ way out by simply ignoring you rather than the right way of kindly saying thanks but no thanks. Sorry this happened to you.

  11. Yahooooooo! says:

    Quelle surprise. I mean, with your “holier than thou” posts, who wouldn’t find you irresistible? The only reason why I read this “sooooo 2000’s” blog (who the fuck blogs anymore?) is to be entertained by your constant failures…so, keep ’em comin’! To semi quote Beck…”Je…suis un raté…”

    • cb says:

      Little harsh, Gretch.

      (That’s a sooooo 2000’s quote from Mean Girls, which I felt was apropos for this cowardly, anonymous “flame” attempt which is pretty 2000-and-late (which is also a sooooo 2000’s Black Eyed Peas reference)).

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