What was I so worried about before going to LA?
I don’t know- I stress about the unknown. A lot. And since I’d never interacted with other gay choirs before, I just didn’t know what to expect. A welcoming environment? Cliques? Judgment?
All my worry was for naught.
Everyone was quite welcoming and accepting. It was like we were in one, huge “love bubble” all weekend. Everyone who travelled to the event had their shit together and it made singing easy.
(Except for LA who was on stage, the rest of us sang all mixed up– so I didn’t sit by any members from my choir.)
And I needn’t have worried about being outcast or ignored. As it turns out, I was quite popular!
I honestly lost count of the number of guys that came up and fawned over my hair and haircut. Evidently I have myself a good cut this time– or perhaps “silver daddies” are in or something.
Plus I did something I almost never do– I put myself out there without fear.
If I saw a guy I wanted to talk to, I simply walked up and talked to him. Or I walked up to a group and introduced myself to the group. I just bit the bullet and did it.
Sounds easy, I know. But we’re talking rooms full of gay men, where the mixing time had a party/bar vibe. Nobody wants to be rejected at a bar, so that fear is very real.
But I wasn’t rejected. Quite the opposite actually. And that was really nice! Maybe my false confidence was attractive??
Anyway, I met lots of guys from each of the different choruses. I exchanged contact info, Facebook friended, and generally made some new, good acquaintances this past weekend. People I’m sure I’ll see in 2016 at the next GALA event in Denver.
I guess I lost sight of the fact that we all had music in common, which is an excellent relationship starting point.