As we all know, I’m just a huge picky whore who just needs to focus on finding a nice guy and dating him.
Well here’s a fresh example of an attempt at doing just that:
In January I joined the gay men’s chorus. And while it’s fairly intimidating to walk into a room of 150 gay guys you don’t know, at least we all share a common love of music and performance. I’ve been trying to put myself out there and meet some new potential friends.
And I met Mike.
I liked Mike right off the bat. Yes, there was something about him that I found attractive. Masculine. Beard. Smile. And talking with him was very easy. I only smiled medium and lightly flirted– and was flirted with back. Occasional glances during rehearsal, that sort of thing. He was confident and a bit snarky and… fun!
Everything was coming up Milhouse!
So last night at break I found him and decided to take the next step.
cb: hey slugger!
Mike: did you get my text?
Cb: um… No? You have my cell…?
Mike: sure! How else could I stalk you? Kidding– I don’t have it.
Cb: well, maybe we should exchange numbers. And then maybe go out sometime… If you wanted?
Mike: oh. Well, I have a partner.
Cb: of course you do. Why wouldn’t you.
Mike: do you have a partner?
Cb: ah… Nope.
Mike: that’s too bad. Why are you still single?
And scene.
This is basically what I deal with all the time. I am forever meeting guys with whom I have an affinity, only to find out they are unavailable.
And then I endure the “Awwww, why are YOU still SINGLE?” Inquisition.
It’s getting old.
Mangina Monologues 
I think what you’ll find is a lot of us a partnered up these days. Single guys are getting rarer than hens teeth. Blame equality!
I can very much relate.
I’ve always said how much I admire you getting out and doing things — and sticking with ‘groups’ and planned activities.
The conversation above is a side of you I haven’t really seen on your blog.
Hang in there.
If there is a perception you lack the willingness of ever considering monogamy, that would be a turn-off to many suitors. Loyalty to one is an admirable trait.
But Brett, you have a boyfriend and you’re a big whore…..
No, I’m NOT! LOL 🙂 I have changed my wicked ways.
You’re on the right track, and I suggest still hanging out with Mike just for fun. There is nothing married gays like better than introducing thier single friends to thier other single friends, hoping to make a match.
Hmmm… I wish I knew what to tell you. But I think it could be helpful to tell your married friends that you’d like them to introduce you to their single friends.
dbb said it before I could — If you like Mike, chances are you might also like the friends he surrounds himself with…and one of them might be single.
I know several single gay men, but they live no where near you. 😦
I second dbb’s idea.
That’s why I gave up on dating.
Well, you know, there’s always this… http://twentytwowords.com/single-woman-spends-14-years-with-mannequin-family-to-make-a-point-17-pictures/