As you may have figured by now, I am not opposed to a bit of cruising at my gym.
Even in the locker room.
But there is cruising and then there is unwanted aggression.
There is this older Asian guy who always seems to be at the gym when I am. Fine. And he spends an inordinate amount of his time in the sauna and steam room.
But lately he’s taken to following me around the locker room. Like, if he sees I’m heading to the shower, he goes to shower.
And he alwayschooses the shower right next to mine.
Even though there are like 20 shower heads and the place is empty, he gets right next to me.
And lately I’ve noticed that he is also getting too close for comfort in the sauna.
Like if I sit on a bench, he will sit like 1 foot away from me on the same bench. When the rest of the sauna is empty.
Invariably this makes me get up and stand in a corner by the heating unit where there are no benches.
Last night it came to a head when he followed me from the sauna to the steam room (I was trying to escape him).
In the sauna he walked by me, not once but TWICE and brushed up against me both times.
Now, I could almost understand his behavior if I had been flirting with him or gotten aroused once in his presence. But neither is the case.
In fact, I never even make eye contact with him.
So there’s nothing that would suggest that I am inviting this type of aggression from him. What’s more, I am now going out of my way to avoid his presence, but he doesn’t seem to be getting the hint.
I never thought I’d say this, but his behavior is actually making me a bit uncomfortable.
Of course, I’m no angel when it comes to gym cruising, but I can tell when there is mutual interest and when there isn’t. Plus, 90% of the time I’m just using the sauna to loosen up my back.
And I don’t want to be a hypocrite and get the guy in trouble, but….
What to do? What to do?