Inappropriate Cruising

As you may have figured by now, I am not opposed to a bit of cruising at my gym.

Even in the locker room.

But there is cruising and then there is unwanted aggression.

There is this older Asian guy who always seems to be at the gym when I am. Fine. And he spends an inordinate amount of his time in the sauna and steam room.

Again, fine.

But lately he’s taken to following me around the locker room. Like, if he sees I’m heading to the shower, he goes to shower.

And he alwayschooses the shower right next to mine.

Even though there are like 20 shower heads and the place is empty, he gets right next to me.


And lately I’ve noticed that he is also getting too close for comfort in the sauna.

Like if I sit on a bench, he will sit like 1 foot away from me on the same bench. When the rest of the sauna is empty.

Invariably this makes me get up and stand in a corner by the heating unit where there are no benches.

Last night it came to a head when he followed me from the sauna to the steam room (I was trying to escape him).

In the sauna he walked by me, not once but TWICE and brushed up against me both times.


Now, I could almost understand his behavior if I had been flirting with him or gotten aroused once in his presence. But neither is the case.

In fact, I never even make eye contact with him.

So there’s nothing that would suggest that I am inviting this type of aggression from him. What’s more, I am now going out of my way to avoid his presence, but he doesn’t seem to be getting the hint.

I never thought I’d say this, but his behavior is actually making me a bit uncomfortable.

Of course, I’m no angel when it comes to gym cruising, but I can tell when there is mutual interest and when there isn’t. Plus, 90% of the time I’m just using the sauna to loosen up my back.

And I don’t want to be a hypocrite and get the guy in trouble, but….

What to do? What to do?


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Nickname: Munt Measurements: 45 B, 34, 38(?) Ambition: to be the best human ever! Turn ons: long walks on the beach, romantic dinners, porn, rainbows, cock Turn offs: bad smell face, men who are full of themselves, dead puppies, popcorn, sadness
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13 Responses to Inappropriate Cruising

  1. he’s a stalker; if he makes you feel uncomfortable, then he must be reported. who knows if he has tried this with others; if he is mentally sicko, etc. do nothing, and he continues to harass you. SPEAK UP!

  2. Dave2 says:

    You should… ummm… You should try… errr… Say, you might want to… huh… woo doggie… Sorry, anything I can think of would probably only encourage him more. Curse my straight genes! I’m useless in situations like this! USELESS!! However… if you ever want to get rid of a straight guy bothering you, just smack him in the face with your penis. That should do the trick!*

    *Warning! Probably won’t work on Republican politicians in airport bathrooms or Catholic priests if you are under the age of 12.

  3. tqe | Adam says:

    Couldn’t you just tell him that you’re not interested verbally — unless there’s a language barrier, I’d think that would be pretty well understood.

  4. My initial thought was for you to pull him aside and have a quiet conversation with him to say “I know what you are doing and I want you to stop since I am not interested”. But, as Anne Marie pointed out, he could be unstable and stalking you and that could make matters worse. I would talk to the manager and arrange for a “sting” to get him barred from this gym. Have you seen him doing it to other guys? Could you talk to the other guys and have them report him as well so they know it is not just you but others his is bothering? Or, if you wish to remain anonymous, find I way to get his name and send an email from a anonymous email address or print a letter and slip it onto the desk when nobody is looking with details of his actions.,

  5. I’d just be “Dude, what the fuck is your problem?” and see where he goes from there.

  6. Mark, nee Fuzz says:

    It’s a god damned curse being pretty, ain’t it?

    But seriously, do the same thing I did with my gym stalker, a man with obviously questionable taste. We have private showers, not the communal type. Still, every time I left mine, there he was in the opposite stall, peeping around the curtain and pulling his pickle. I tried to just pull away and otherwise ignore him the time he cupped my ass cheek on the way in. It didn’t work. Then one day he tried to grab my goodie bag in the steam room. I looked him straight in the eye and told him it ain’t gonna happen.

  7. Ben says:

    Make direct eye contact (DIRECT) and say, “No thanks” If he’s sane, he’ll now what you mean. If he’s not, nothing you say will work. then report him.

  8. rob says:

    Got to love it when the creepy gym stalkers get stalked themselves. Karma is SUCH a bitch!

    • cb says:

      Awww, lookit you trying to be all snarky and bitchy!

      It *almost* worked, except now you look like a creepy blog stalker.

  9. Dustin says:

    Say “Nooooooooooo!” Just like in that episode of Designing Women 🙂 Or you can talk to him and say something like “I’m only into dark meat.” If all else fails, be totally racist and say “I’m like a fine piece of China, you can look with your eyes but not your hands!”

  10. CitizenKurt says:

    I would just tell him No yanky on my wanky!

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