I have a couple questions about weddings and I’m hoping my readers can shed some light for me.
Question #1: if you are asked to be in someone’s wedding, does that mean you are responsible for costs associated (tux rental, party events, etc?)
Question #2: What is a reasonable time commitment expectation if you are participating?
Question #3: At what point should you expect an itinerary of the wedding do you know when you are supposed to be where, etc?
Question #4: What would be a reasonable gift to give?
The reason I ask these questions is that I am paying for the tux rental but opted out of the “post wedding” event that was to cost $25 a person.
I’m also having to take a half day off work because it’s a Friday wedding and the expectation is to be ready to photograph at 2:45 pm.
Which, I might add, I just learned on Sunday. I had no knowledge of any of the wedding itinerary until then, so I had to scramble to get a half day off work approved.
All of this has caught me a bit off guard. I guess I was just expecting to show up about 15 minutes before the wedding, do the thing, then hot the reception.
But maybe all of the above is normal wedding stuff and to be expected. But that’s where I need your input. I just don’t do many weddings and have never been “in” one.
So… Feedback? And what would be an appropriate gift?
Thanks in advance.